Have you ever stopped and thought about who you’d like to become some day? Sometimes it’s so easy to get lost in the 9 to 5 grind and taking the kids to after-school programs that we forget that we once wanted to be something in life. We take a look in the mirror and wonder who the heck that person is that’s staring back at us. If this is you, perhaps this blog can be helpful to you.
Whether you are the person who has forgotten the spark of long lost dreams or are the person who still longs for a brighter future, the questions that you must ask yourself are the same.
Who am I? Why am I here? What do I want to do with my life? What do I need to do to get there?
There are many positive things that we can do and steps that we can take in order to become more like the person we visualize in our head when we think of our ideal selves.
The problem? Most of us don’t know how to get there.
In light of this, I would like to put something forward for your consideration. What I’d like to let you know is that everything about you, the quality of your character, the type of car you drive, the people you call friends, everything, is defined more than anything else by just one thing. This one thing is the premier driver of success and the ultimate harbinger of failure. It is the thing that most causes individuals to be energized by life or drained by it.
So I’m going to tell you what the secret ingredient to a successful life is (however you want to define it). But before I do, I want you to take a moment and ask yourself this question.
If money was no object, and if you couldn’t possibly fail, what would you do with your life?
If you read this and found yourself coming up with a real profound sense of “I don’t know,” fear not. Most of us get so used to living according to the limiting factors in our lives (like the amount of money we have, our health, etc.) that we can forget to think outside of the box that we currently find ourselves in.
But if you really think about it and really imagine who you could be if there were no limits placed on you, then after a few moments something should start to emerge in your mind. If not, think about the things you daydream about and could see yourself doing for work or for fun. What people could you see yourself helping? What love you could see yourself expressing? What joy could you bring to others? What kind of things would you do for fun? All of us were created to be passionate about something. For me, I’m passionate about my faith, missions work, and travel. What is it for you?
Now if you’ve formed a mental picture in your head of what your dream life would look like, I want to ask you another question.
What are you doing today to move towards those dreams?
If you again say “I’m not real sure,” that’s alright. It’s okay if you haven’t thought of it, or have and haven’t quite worked out a solution yet. But I want to encourage you that without getting plan in place now, you will never reach your goals in life. And if you are willing, there is something that you can start changing today that can begin moving you forward in life.
You see, the secret ingredient to a successful life is…
Your daily habits.
What you do daily, whether it is intentional or something you find yourself doing on autopilot, will define more than anything else where you are going in life and who you will become.
It has been said that your character is the sum of all of your choices put together. That also is true about your weight, your health, your relationships, and your general sense of happiness. While there are things that happen to us in our lives that are beyond our control, we do have a choice when it comes to most of our daily habits and behaviors.
If you desire to lose weight, you’re going to have to change your daily eating and exercise habits. If you want to get out of your current job and start a new business fixing computers, you’re probably going to need to start a daily habit of reading and learning how to fix computers.
What you do on a daily or close to daily basis will be the biggest thing that collectively defines you.
So, if it’s that simple where do you start?
Start small. Start making small changes and implementing behavior that will take you towards your goals in life, not away from them. Take the time to think of what consistent behaviors will escort you towards your passions, and then get a plan to implement them. Even if you begin with just one new good habit this week, it will be a step in the right direction for you.
And if you have tried countless times before to change your behavior and have never been able to get new habits to stick, perhaps you would consider checking out my book, Habits, A Field Guide, where I go more in depth on the strategies and psychological secrets that help to simply things for anyone looking to adopt good habits and get rid of bad ones.
I wish you all the best on your pursuit. Here’s to the journey!